Essay: Should Same Sex Marriage be Legalized?

The argument for or against same sex marriage(SSM) has raged for several years in America and around the world. Some see same sex marriage as a legal civil right that is presently being denied to some who want to get married. Others, primarily right wing Christian conservatives as well as many in the Black church view same sex marriage as going against God’s law. Several American states and countries around the world allow for same sex unions. However the argument continues to go on and on and on.

Some argue that allowing same sex marriage will destroy the institution of marriage in general, yet studies in Scandinavia where same sex marriage started years ago, suggest otherwise. Some allege that children are negatively affected by having two parents of the same sex. But no credible study has ever been able to document this allegation. Some conservatives argue that allowing same sex marriage opens the door to other things such as polygamy. They don’t back it up with any real evidence just the charge that this will happen. Another allegation is that SSM will make heterosexual divorce too easy. Critics shoot back that heterosexual divorce can’t get too much easier because it is already at nearly 60% of married couples who seek divorce.

Opponents of SSM claim that schools will be forced to teach tolerance in schools, meaning the schools would be forced to teach straight kids to be nice to gay kids. Tolerance is apparently no longer a Christian principle according to the conservative right. Allowing SSM also opens the door to same sexed couples being able to adopt children and this would be a way for homosexuals to recruit naive children into the ranks of militant homosexuals. This charge belies the fact that homosexuality just like heterosexuality is a born characteristic, not a learned characteristic.

Allowing SSM would mean that straight foster parents would now have to undergo sensitivity training, for so far, unclear reasons. This is one of many allegations that have no basis in fact or common sense but still viewed as legitimate arguments by Christian conservatives. Similar reasoning applies to the argument that Social Security can’t afford to pay for same sex couples. The so called justification for this allegation is convoluted with no basis in fact. One other argument claims that SSM would hinder evangelists in doing their job. In other words, that SSM would impede religion and religious practices.

Still others maintain that allowing SSM will bring divine retribution from God. These conservatives claim that God will destroy America or other tolerant countries in the same fashion as Sodom was destroyed. Those in favor of SSM view it simply as a civil right that has nothing really to do with religion but everything to do with equality of all people.